I’m OK not having a Girl

I am a boy mom. I have two precious, wild, and adventurous boys. They are three years old and nine months old, and they rule my world. I love having boys and that’s a statement that I thought I would NEVER say. While raising these two, I get boys now; I know what they need and how they communicate. They are TOTALLY different than girls and I am grateful that I get to experience how boys work.

I hope to raise two kind, gracious, and respectful boys who will change the world for the better and, most importantly, treat women with respect and love no matter what situation. I grew up with mostly girls in my family; friends, cousins, and aunts were a big part of my life. I was influenced so much by so many important women in my life, and having boys kind of scared me because I didn’t know how to approach raising boys.

I wasn’t a girly girl growing up; I played sports but I also enjoyed shopping and dressing up. When I envisioned my perfect family, I wanted a boy first, then a girl. I am the oldest with one younger sister and I always dreamt about having an older brother: someone to look up to and defend me. When I found out I was pregnant with my firstborn, I was excited to find out the sex and I was hoping for a boy. I was ecstatic that it was a boy, but I was also scared because I didn’t know how raise a boy.

Fast forward 3.5 years: I’m raising two boys and I wouldn’t change a thing. When people see me with two boys, the typical first question is  “Two boys, it must be crazy at your house!” I usually politely smile and acknowledge that our house is crazy but fun. And the second question usually always is, “Are you going to try for a girl?” No, our family is complete with two kids and I love having boys. I’m always questioned about “just having two boys” and why I don’t want a girl…well, the fact is that having a girl won’t make me feel like more of a mom.

Every family is different and pregnancy can be easy or difficult for every couple. So remember a family is put together in different ways so sometimes the gender of a baby isn’t the biggest priority, a healthy baby is truly the most important. My boys are enough for me; they complete me as a a mom and I wouldn’t change anything about it.

Having kids is a blessing. So no matter how many kids you have and what gender they are, whatever makes your family complete is the most important thing.

Ashley Chan
Ashley was born and raised in North Texas and settled down in Frisco. She met her husband while playing intramural basketball at UNT. Ashley taught Pre-K and then was a trainer for a technology company until having her little one.She loves cooking, going for walks with the whole family and watching HGTV and Food Network. She's loves to keep up with the latest tech gadgets and is the nerd of the family. She and her husband own pandachans productions, which specialize in video production. She spends her free time trying to finish her adult coloring book, reading the news and enjoying home life with her little one.