I’m Just an OK Mom

I am just an OK mom, and I am fine with it. I am an average, sometimes below-average, mom. I have been a mom for 2.5 years and it has flown by! It has been a struggle and success, all in one experience. When I was pregnant with my son, I read several parenting and child development books so I could get a better understanding of how a baby grows and develops. When the time came to implement those practices, I went with what was easier in the moment and I felt like a failure.

Parenting is hard; “mom-ing” is even harder. I am the sole nurturer in my son’s life and there are times when I feel so overwhelmed that I want to cry and scream at the same time. Don’t get me wrong: I love my son, I adore my son, and I wouldn’t trade a second I have with him for ANYTHING else in the world. But being his mom is hard, trying to balance his life with the rest of our family can be challenging. I am a scheduler, cook, chauffeur, nurse, maid, wife, sister, daughter, and woman all in one day. We all have our good days and bad days as parents, but most days for me are just ok. Whether it’s my son refusing a nap or me burning dinner; anything can make a good day go to an ok day. 

I had grand ideas of what a mom “should” be, but being a modern day mom can be difficult. Social media has made it even harder for parents to make any parenting decision without the fear of scrutiny or negative comments.

I don’t follow the “mom norms”: I don’t craft, bake, or scrapbook, and I’m ok with that.

I am an OK mom; I have my son on a daily schedule and plan playdates and activities that will engage him and hopefully enrich his development.

I don’t sew, read books, or work out, and I’m ok with that.

I don’t wear makeup, dress up, or clean my car, and I’m ok with that.

I am an OK mom and I put my son first in every decision and leave the laundry in the dryer for a few more days so that I can spend every minute soaking in the joy and fun at this age in his life. I am an OK mom and I love my son. 

Ashley Chan
Ashley was born and raised in North Texas and settled down in Frisco. She met her husband while playing intramural basketball at UNT. Ashley taught pre-k and then was a trainer for a technology company until having her two sweet boys. She loves cooking, going for walks with the whole family, and exploring new restaurants all over DFW. She's a hardcore Disney lover and loves to explore and travel with her family.